Your relationship could be in trouble because of this daily habit

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  • Parallel scrolling and phubbing can erode intimacy and connection in relationships.
  • Setting screen time limits and creating tech-free zones can help mitigate the negative impact of excessive phone use.
  • Engaging in shared activities without screens can strengthen the bond between partners.

Our relationships often take a backseat to the constant barrage of notifications, emails, and social media updates. One seemingly innocuous habit that has emerged as a significant threat to romantic relationships is the excessive use of screens, particularly mobile phones. This habit, often referred to as "parallel scrolling" or "phubbing," can erode the intimacy and connection that are crucial for a healthy relationship.

The Impact of Parallel Scrolling

Parallel scrolling is the act of silently scrolling through your phone while lying in bed next to your partner, who is likely doing the same. This behavior might seem harmless, but it can have detrimental effects on your relationship. According to marriage and family counselor Tracy Ross, "Connection is critical for a relationship to thrive. It needs to happen regularly, without fail". The end of the day, when couples lie in bed together, is a pivotal moment for reconnecting. However, many couples overlook this opportunity for intimacy as they become engrossed in their phones.

A 2017 study by Baylor University found that 70% of the 143 participants reported that mobile phones frequently interfered with their romantic interactions . This interference can lead to feelings of neglect and emotional distance, which can gradually weaken the bond between partners.

The Dangers of Phubbing

Phubbing, or ignoring your partner in favor of your phone, is another common issue that plagues modern relationships. This behavior can make your partner feel unimportant and undervalued. Psychotherapist Aimee Hartstein acknowledges the challenge of completely eliminating screens from romantic evenings, stating, "Phones are here to stay, and it's an unusual couple who will put them away for the entire night". However, understanding the reasons behind phone usage and making conscious efforts to change the habit can help mitigate its negative impact.

Strategies to Combat Screen Addiction

To address the issue of parallel scrolling and phubbing, consider discussing the matter with your partner and setting screen time limits. For instance, you could agree to avoid using phones at bedtime or during dinner. Additionally, you could try a digital detox by abstaining from digital devices for a day or several days, depending on your needs and abilities.

By being aware of the reasons behind your phone usage and making conscious efforts to engage with your partner, you can strengthen your relationship and foster a deeper connection. Here are some practical tips to help you get started:

Set Boundaries: Establish specific times when phones are off-limits, such as during meals or before bedtime.

Create Tech-Free Zones: Designate certain areas of your home, like the bedroom or dining room, as tech-free zones to encourage more face-to-face interaction.

Engage in Shared Activities: Find activities that you both enjoy and can do together without screens, such as cooking, hiking, or playing board games.

While screens have become an integral part of our lives, it's essential to recognize their potential to harm our relationships. By setting boundaries, creating tech-free zones, and engaging in shared activities, couples can combat the negative effects of parallel scrolling and phubbing. Remember, the key to a strong and healthy relationship lies in regular, meaningful connection and communication.


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